Girls, Friends, and GIRLFRIENDS

This piece of literature will be updated the moment it is proved that Eve wasn’t the only ‘gal’ in town when Earth was moulded up.

If Adam and Eve where the only ones, then I’ll brand that situation responsible for all miseries that guys and gals face when they are just ‘friends’. Since parents can very well argue, ‘unlike hormones always attract’.

There is an age old saying (that scores of movies have researched and proved), ‘A guy and gal can’t stay as best friends forever’. Can’t blame the pig head who jotted that quote. Terminologies are grossly misused by a large number of ‘couples’. “Oh! Its Rita….mom don’t worry, she is just a friend of mine”, says Rakesh when questioned by his mother when caught red handed with his mobile phone at 2 past mid night. Weeks later they are caught from ‘Coffee Beans’ having cold coffee, one glass, two straws!!!

INFATUATION is really a terrible phenomenon, often responsible for Sudden Explosions in relationships. I challenge if there is a single guy in the vicinity who haven’t experienced such an infatuation to a gal who is genuinely his friend. For example, when she is seen gorgeous at a party, you’ll think for a moment,” Oh! Why don’t I fall in for her?” Fortunately this feeling is often transient. The next moment you’ll think, “Oh! Shit what am I thinking?” You either hide it in your brain’s recycle bin or spit it out to her some day,

I’ll call all these things NATURAL. Why? What is the big Sin in falling in love with your friend? As far as southern Kerala (my abode) is concerned, if she is of your same ‘caste’, ‘similar or better financial and family back ground’ parents usually say ‘Yes. Go on kid’. But gross or even minute mis-matches, (eg. The ‘star’ problems…yupp…astrology) end in catastrophe.

One solution, that I think is apt, is to clearly discriminate between ‘friend’ and ‘girlfriend’. ‘Girlfriend’ as far as I know is an often mis interpreted term. It is best to call your gal friend just ‘friend’ if she is truly just a friend.

TRANSPARENCY is the best safety measure. Transparency everywhere...commmunication, relation, or where ever applicable.

Recently I ‘sold’ my old mobile to one of my best friend (unfortunately a girl!!!). Within months rumours reached my aunt, “Hey your nephew is having an affair with one gal. He has already ‘gifted’ her Mobile Phone, i-pod etc.”( I still don’t have an i-pod for myself)

Since my amma knew what exactly had happened, and what exactly ran between us, I didn’t suffer any casualty. My senses have risen up since then.

Since then, even Birthday cards are selected with caution. What if, some day I gift a pal (guy) with a card containing a symbol of heart in it and I get branded gay…?

Planning to give a nice treat to your pal…? Beware!!! You are being watched.